Wednesday 11 June 2014

Bad Company



On my last rant I wrote about the connection that SL has with RL. How it’s not two separated things. That SL is not something you can leave behind and forget the people inside while you’re at your RL job, family dinner etc. I also said that I don’t see much judgement among my SL friends. Those who do get judgement are those that hurt others. This rant is going to be all about them.

In my short SL I came across many types of people and heard about a lot of different types I must say I’m probably lucky I haven’t met so far. Here are three types of people that in my views deserves nothing but our judgement. Type number one: Griefers. Like any society upon this blue planet, SL has its criminals. This is how I see griefers, as nothing more then criminals. Some of them are more dangerous than others, but criminals none the less. This rant is more about people I met along this ride who hurt people for the sake of what we call DRAMA. Yes, the D word.

Type number two: They say they hate drama, but they love it. They say that the people around them they hate, are those who cause THE drama and it’s never them. They think that SL is a game of the drama, by the drama and for the drama (forgive my Lincoln, I had to). My opinion about drama? It happens. Do I like it? I don’t care for it. Do I look for it? It’s everywhere just like in the real world.

For example from my own SL I’ll take the people I was trying to find a polite reason, some might call it excuse, not to work for them. A club that was trashing other clubs openly, a club that in its first version used me and my will to help to the max, a club that treated it’s staff in a horrible appalling way. As I was thinking of a good reason that will not hurt their feelings, the owner of the club got the vibe and in return banned me. So far I accept the anger, didn’t like the overreaction, but took it. For some reason banning me wasn’t enough. Friends of mine started telling me about staff of that club coming to them and warning them of me. People coming to the club I work in and trashing my name in the local chat and in that owner’s profile, besides calling me names I will not repeat here, starting to mention as their new best friend, a person I used to care for deeply. Using him with lies and manipulation, plain and simple, in order to hurt my feelings. They (and he) succeeded. It took me a long while to get back on track and focus on the future instead of the past, but I got over it by let it go, while hearing how that staff member that was sent to warn my friends about me was banned herself… and how more and more staff members found themselves banned. It’s a simple story about over-reacting in SL to the point of going on a vendetta crusade. From what I hear, karma is now working its charm.

So this was about people claiming to hate drama yet looking for it and if it’s not there, causing it. The final type for this rant comes in all shapes and forms, in my case, came in the shape of a sick twisted man. A man that thinks, that the game of love and relationships in SL should look like and episode of The Young and the Restless meets porn. Tempting women into a fake fantasy of deep friendship and then declaring love and all mixed in sex, emotion and pity. When the woman tried to reject him politely/Falls for him and starts feeling smothered, the game of guilt starts. If the game of guilt is not helping, the game of shame, threats and manipulation starts and if that doesn’t work that “lovely” man in need to defend himself starts with the spreading of lies, rumours and moves on to the next targets. I say targets because this man loves juggling… Karma is working its charms there too.

So what did we have here? The three types that deserve judgement in Second Life, in my opinion, are:

  • Griefers AKA Criminals
  • Vendetta people AKA Drama “haters”. At least be honest to yourselves. Come on, look in the mirror and say “I love drama” there… better?
  • Those that play on people’s mind and heart as a way of winning in the “game” of Second Life. Their game usually ends with Game Over…

Ouftit:
Skin - LAQ Alva Peach 04 LAQ Main Store
Hair - CaTwA Yuna HairStyle/Dark Reds
This location is still wintry and festive it is beautiful for walks and picture taken. Don't miss it out

Monday 9 June 2014

RL vs/feat. SL


Someone I used to spent a lot of my time on SL with, used to say that SL for him is nothing but an addition. That he, unlike others, knows to make the separation between the two. That RL and SL are two different things and once you're away from it, it's should be off totally including the people inside it. I used to listen, try to learn and think, as I was new to this world, I know nothing, so shut up, listen and learn. 

Today, months and months after this somebody that I used to know gone out of my life with a nice door slam, I can say that in my opinion, he couldn't be so far from the truth, and the attempt to keep that separation is a recipe for this "hobby" as he calls it, to blow in one's face. 

The avis you see in the picture little collage I made are people I adore, love and care for. I count them as my closest friends ALONG SIDE my RL friends. I'm saying my good mornings and my good nights to them, I laugh, cry and share deep moments with them as much as I do with my own RL family and friends. To say I close my computer and walk away, and they become a fade memory is and insult. It's an insult not only to the very much real love and affection we all feel to each other, but to the whole concept of a platform that is first and for most a social one. I told my friends this many time, I don't search for the avi and stage persona. I care and look at the person that made the persona. I'm looking at the real man or woman that reached out and I reach back.

As for relationships. I'm married in RL like over half the population of SL. I got judged for being in SL and married, saying what I'm saying that there is no separation. For that I say judge lest ye be judged. The human being is a social animal. Our hearts reach out for each other and sometimes a deep emotional connection is being made. You judge others you open yourself to be judged by others. But I must day, within this beautiful odd wonderland that is being called Second Life I don't see a lot of judgement. Only people that are being judged are those that hurt others... But that's.. Oh that's for another rant...

To sum things up, dear chap that I used to know, you, in my opinion, are wrong, and the love I have for those people and so many more is the best present I could get from a "hobby"


It's hard to see the outfits on those pictures, but the hair is more visible so here we go (only the hair styles I'm wearing):
Top left corner: TRUTH HAIR Cyanne reds
Middle top line up: ARGRACE KAORU - Reds
for a post of Tal's blog about those outfits please click here
Middle top line down: CaTwA Lamar V2 HairStyle/Dark Reds
Top Right Corner - ARGRACE HARUKA - Reds
Bottom left corner: Exile 1985 Dark Reds
Middle bottom - D!va Hair Asami (Type A)(Garnet)
Middle bottom up and bottom right corner - ARGRACE SHIORI - Reds

Friday 6 June 2014

The Arcade


On the last post I told what a fashion addict photography made me. How I care about textures and looks and realism in sl. My addiction led me to tag along with friends to events, follow fashion blogs like my friend Tal's blog that was an inspiration to me. I'm no way near the knowledge and expertise of my friends Tal and Mia in sl fashion. But I know what I like.
In this picture the items you see is the result. I went along with Mia to the Gacha event The Arcade. Large beautiful event. I had a blast, so why not make a fashion kinda picture to show you what fun things you can get? 
Drop off those scrips to the lowest point and get down there. It's brilliant. The luggage, the sofa and my hair are from there. Thank you Mia for making this event buzz in my ears and making me curious about it.


Eyes - IKON Promise Eyes – Fjord
Skin - LAQ Alva Peach 01 LAQ Main Store
Hair - Exile - London - brownupdo-glasses hud for The Arcade Gacha Event
Dress - Karababy - enMESHed -:EIS:-woman gift
Shoes - R.icielli - LEXIE Mesh High Heels for Slink

Luggage - Apple Fall Monogram Luggage Bag for The Arcade Gacha Event
Apple Fall Worn Luggage Bag for The Arcade Gacha Event
Sofa - Trash Blah Charmant Settee – Bashful for The Arcade Gacha Event